The parts that we think of as less honorable get treated with special honor. And the parts that we see as not presentable get treated with special modesty.

Thanks to television, magazines, and Joan Rivers, we girls feel the need to dress a certain way.  As a high school senior, I know from personal experience that sometimes it’s easier to let the people around me influence my decisions about what I wear.

Of course, I want to fit in and dress like everybody else. But, I’ve come to understand that I can dress appropriately and still look trendy and fashionable – without wearing anything too revealing that dishonors my body and spirit.

Go Ahead and Fit In, But Don’t Hang Out

Dressing modestly does not mean that you need to dress like a nun; it simply means that you don’t need to show off your goodies to get attention. You may indeed receive male attention by wearing less clothing, but it’s usually the wrong type of guys that notice you.

The right guy for you will love your personality and will think you look unbelievably attractive in classy, trendy, but modest clothing. Your dream guy will not want you for your tiny shorts and the cleavage he can see down your shirt. Believe it or not ladies, guys actually like it when we dress modestly. It might not seem like it, but the more we reveal, the less it allows for their imagination. Sure, they may glance at the girl who lets it all hang out – after all, they’re guys. But it’s the bubbly, polished, well-put-together girl that they want for keeps.

My Modest is Hottest Checklist

Here are some ways to know if your outfit makes the modest is hottest cut:

• If your bathing suit bottoms cover more of your hiney than your shorts, you probably shouldn’t leave your house.
• If you can see more of your stomach than your shirt, you’re probably not modest.
• If you can see the color of your panties while sitting in that mini-skirt, you guessed it — not modest.
• If your ultra low-cut jeans let your undies peek out over the top, you need to head back to the Gap (or wherever you can to find some hot, modest jeans).

As you journey on through your week ask yourself, “what kind of attention do I want, and how do I want to get it?”  Do you want the frenzied attention of boys, or do you want the attention of mature college-bound young men with their eyes on the real prize – a fit, smart, classy girl with something real to offer?

Written by: Alexis Reed @alexismreed. 

Alexis Reed is a senior in high school in metro Atlanta, GA just trying to figure out what the next exciting chapter in her life holds.  She is involved in FCA, Secret Santa, her church youth group and competing every year at the Science Bowl.  Alexis has championed the challenges her body has thrown at her in life so far by overcoming two heart valve transplants. Because of that Alexis likes to champion postitive things like age appropriate fashion, homecoming court, encouraging her peers and rocking her favorite fashion acccessory, her scar!